#Tie #Names #Stories #Questions

#Tie #Names #Stories #Questions: – Last week while coaching at the Craigslist Foundation Bootcamp, I met a Euro-American woman, who told me about the DNA test her Chinese adopted daughter took to learn about her ancestry. The results were surprising to them both. When I returned home later that day I began doing research on agencies who provided this service. Because NY state, like most others, lock their adoption records; most adoptees have no clues to their past beyond what may appear obvious, their hair and skin tone. I thought it would be great if I could find out what tribes and countries could be found in my DNA.

And that idea led me this morning to look up the origin of my “original” birth surname, Lewis. I use quotes around original because many adoptees are lied to about birth dates, circumstances and names, but that’s what I have to work with right now…
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#Tie #Move #Moving #Home

#Tie #Move #Moving #Home – Collectively Jen and I have moved 10 times since 2000. We made our first home together in 2006. Yesterday we learned the person who owns our home has died, (she was 94) and the lease will not be renewed. I’m very conscious about our moves, I make no assumptions. Yesterday I asked Jen if she’d move in with me again; this will be our 4th move together, I was glad when she said yes.

Jen and I have experienced different losses when it comes to the idea of “going home.” Generally however, I can say that neither of us have rooms filled with warmth and memories waiting for us anywhere, both for very different reasons and we both have different expectations and longings. And this move, it appears, is the continuation of our quest for home.
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